Empowerment, Faith, Uncategorized

Temporary Patch Rather than a Lifelong Seal


Regardless of our background no one is exempt from feeling a void, or having multiple voids in their life. A void is an empty space, emptiness, something experienced as a loss or privation, or a vacancy (Dictionary.com).

Some voids are visible and some are hidden, but they do exist. Maybe your void was an absent father, absent mother, weight issues, financial issues, neglect, unloved, unable to have a child, or you grew up poor.

People take on two different positions when it comes to voids: the person with the void or the person trying to fill the void. In some instances, you find people with voids trying fill other people’s voids. We must take a step back and think about the lifelong seal rather than the temporary fix. Temporary fixes can include helping out someone every time they spend their money and need rent money. A temporary fix can be getting in relationships to receive a certain feeling but never really dealing with the underlying issues.

A temporary fix is when we avoid the void by seeking out other avenues to fill it or by being the person to take on the responsibility of patching someone else’s void.  As human beings, our presence in their life will only ever be a temporary patch; they must seek a higher power to have a lifelong seal. Until they turn over their problems to God and allow him to work on their heart, their mind, and their behavior, they will only ever receive patches.

Some temporary patches last for 2 years, 5 years, 10 years, 15 years, even 30 years and yet there is still a seeping leak where the void is still present.

No matter how much others pour into your bucket, you will still be empty. No matter how much you pour into someone’s bucket it will still be empty. It’s exhausting to continue to try to keep your bucket full.

Make a decision today, seek a lifelong seal rather than a temporary patch.

Education, Empowerment, Technology, Youth

Re-Evaluating the Definition of “Smart”

Education is powerful and up until a certain point, in the United States, it is free.  Or is it? There are parents that cannot afford to send their children to a specialized school so they are products of public education and then there are students whose parents send them to specialized schools to “ensure” their child receives “the best” education. According to an article posted by the Council for American Private Education as reported by the National Center for Education Statistics, in 2007-2008 the average tuition for private schools for K-12 was $10, 045 (Council for American Private Education, 2014).

Think about two college students in the same program, yet one is a product of public education and the other of private education. One is a female, Hispanic student who attended a public school and the other is a Caucasian male who went through private education. Which would you say is “smarter”? To add a little bit more information, they both hold leadership roles in student organizations, have part-time jobs, and were both accepted into the same professional schools after graduation. Now which one would you say is “smarter”?

Think about it for a minute. . .

Parents are a key influence in the success of student education, not money. The students that go through the public system do not attend schools where certain subjects are specialized and they have top resources and technology. Most public schools are understaffed, underresourced, and mixed with all socio-economic classes. In addition, public schools are usually separated by district, which aligns with the location of residence.

On the other hand, private schools cost money because they have fixed class sizes, pay top dollar for staff, have the latest technology or require parents to purchase the technology as a “supply” and have majority of one type of socio-economic class.

Think about the everyday obstacles that public school students face: racial discrimination, peer pressure, disruptive classrooms, sharing a classroom with students of all education levels, and underpaid staff that are only willing to work as much as they think they are paid for.

In private schools, students still face obstacles, yet the cost eliminates the probably of disruptive classrooms, multi-level comprehension, and underpaid staff. There are still peer pressure issues and racial discrimination issues. In some respects, these might be greater because of the entitlement certain students feel they have, and some can go back to racial discrimination.

 Going back to the two college students, if anything, the female Hispanic student who comes from a lower socio-economic class and attended public school is smarter than the Caucasian male who attended private school. She had to focus on her education even when there was chaos around her by disruptive students.

  • She didn’t have easy access to specialized programs to help her learn.

  • Instead of attending camps and programs, she had to write essays, get top grades, and perform at a top 10% to receive scholarships to cover the cost.

  • Her parents both worked long hours just to pay the bills in the house, so she was left to take accountability for her education.

The next time you hear someone having a conversation about how poor the education system is or comparing the products of public or private systems, give them a friendly reminder that parents are important to education, and it’s not about race. It is a socio-economic issue and students that excel in their education in public schools are just as smart, if not smarter than students who attend private schools. They have to be more resourceful and active in their education without the constant support of their school, parents, or administrators.

Career, Education, Empowerment

Wanted: Experienced Job Hunter

I’ve been reading a lot of CNN reports lately about the job market and how jobs have been created, just in certain areas. Working at a University, I see how hundreds of college students are all striving for the same degree, the same market; and I just think “how competitive that industry is, that process is, what are they doing now that will make them competitive?”

According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics (2014), “the number of unemployed persons declined by 490,000 to 10.4 million in December”. So based on a population of 317,346,141 people and growing, there are a little over 10 million without jobs. How many people do you know that are unemployed? I know quite a few. So not only are there college students looking for jobs, there are unemployed people looking for jobs, and people with jobs looking for a different job.  I just read on the Tampa Bay Times (2014), “most of the people are desperately looking for jobs; our economy still has three people looking for every job (opening).”

So the bottom line is that there are at least 3 other people that are applying for the same job you are, at least 3. Maybe one is the recent college graduate, one is unemployed, and one is currently employed but looking for something better. Where do you fall within these three types of persons?

Below are some tips that I’ve come across when job hunting that I have found to be standards for me to start with as I apply for countless jobs and compete with at least 3 people for one job.

  1. Create accounts with job search websites to help you receive notifications and remind you that you are in the job search process. It is exactly that, a process, so make a plan.
    1. Use your LinkedIn to network and apply for jobs.
    2. If you graduated from a college or university, use their Career Service Center. Some companies favor alumni of certain institutions. (Some universities say they only help you up to 5 years post-graduation, but many will help you even after that. They are looking for alumni donations and they can’t get those from unemployed alumni.)

2. Read the job descriptions entirely, identify your strengths in the responsibilities and tailor your resume so the skills you have stand out.

3. Give your resume a makeover. If you have not been successful in finding a job with your resume template you’ve had for the past 4 year, 7 years, 10 year, UPDATE it! Resume formats change like fashion. One year an objective is something companies look for, the next they feel like they’re a waste of time.

  1. Functional Resumes focus on your skills and experience instead of your work history in chronological order
  2. Chronological Resume organizes your work history by date with the most recent job listed first
  3. Executive Resume has a title that reflects you as a professional. It includes an executive summary with key words that targets your skills, expertise, and separates your from other candidates. You can include a section that highlights specifics skills. Focus on your achievements instead of work responsibilities (sales figures, growth in numbers, revamp of processes)

4. Do not be ashamed that you are currently looking for a job. Networking is 60% of the success of getting a job. You never know who might know someone currently looking for an employee.

5. Follow Up, Follow Up, Follow Up. When you apply for a job, follow up with a phone call inquiring if your resume was received. Sometimes you never receive a callback because the online application didn’t go through or the position was already filled. Remember, in today’s times, not all companies give applicants the courtesy of a phone call or email.


Bureau of Labor Statistics. January 10, 2014. Information obtained from http://www.bls.gov/news.release/pdf/empsit.pdf

Sperling, G. Tampa Bay Times. January 5, 2014. Information obtained from http://www.politifact.com/truth-o-meter/statements/2014/jan/07/gene-sperling/there-are-3-unemployed-people-every-job-opening-ob/